I was driving the other day with my girls, coming home from bowling, and the conversation turned to one of one of the men I dated that the girls got attached to pretty quickly. It was a light convo about what he is up to now and how we were becoming friends again. Now I don’t tell my girls much about my dating life but they love to joke with me about meeting someone. Macy, my 9 year old says ‘well someone who would come all that way to see us must really like us!’ (Back then, this wasn’t recent) I told her she was right and that sometimes things don’t work out the way we think it will but that that’s ok. She then says, without knowing why the relationship ended, ‘well, he only made one mistake. I mean, that’s not so bad.’
My 9 year old has a lot of knowledge for her little self. She is a deep thinker without even trying. She understands that people make mistakes and that it’s ok to do so. I feel I must be doing something right. It makes me think a lot about my own mistakes and the mistakes of others. What mistakes are too much and what can be forgotten. What are we willing to sacrifice for the things we want in life. ‘It was only one mistake’.
So my question to you is when do you fight for something or someone, when do you expect them to fight for you, and when do you walk away? And how long before making that decision? Part of me wants to fight, part of me wants someone to fight for me, and part of me wants no distractions so I can keep my thoughts on my own goals. I know what I will do, but I know I’m not the only one who’s been in this position.