‘We all make time for what we feel is important in our lives’
Making time for things and people that are important to us is…important. You have to be careful about this. If you don’t make time for the things you love, you’ll miss out on experiences. If you don’t make time for the people you love, you’ll miss out on experiences as well but you may also lose that person.
There are people who will drop what they are doing for others. They will make time to listen to their day or their worries or their achievements. If you do drop what you’re doing for everyone around you but not for the person who drops what they are doing to listen to you, be prepared to lose that.
So often we don’t realize what we have until it’s gone. Everyone has a breaking point. There will come a point when that person will say to themselves ‘I do what I do for you because I value you but if you don’t value me, I have to value myself’.
I don’t stop my life for someone to get anything in return. And very seldom do I ever ask anyone for anything. But every so often it would be nice to have someone who would do the same for me. Especially when I hear how they drop everything for others. Just not for me. They will talk highly about some who help them and support them. I do this for them but it goes unnoticed. It goes unappreciated.
Again, I do what I do because I care about them. Not for a thank you. But there does come a time where enough is enough. If I’m building a relationship with someone and it’s all one sided, it will never work.
I wonder sometimes if I’m living in a fantasy world where I’m the only one living there. Are my deeds in my head? Am I not doing enough? Am I not enough? Once a person makes me feel as if I’m not enough, I can’t help but back off. Not because I don’t care and don’t want to support them. But because I have to put myself somewhere on my own list of priorities.
I am the type of person who puts themselves last. I don’t need much but what I do need I am not getting. Basic respect. If you know I need you and you choose to be there for everyone else above me, I’ll shut down. I still need you but I know I won’t get what I need and I won’t keep asking. I don’t like to bother anyone with my stuff. Good or bad. Everyone has their shit and I don’t want to add to it. I just don’t like when people ask to hear about my day and then everyone and everything comes above me. I won’t wait forever. I’ve gone this long on my own so I don’t mind keeping up with that.
What bothers me most is when others then get upset when I don’t open up to them once they’ve shown me I am not on their list of priorities. What do they expect?
It’s the same with trust. I used to trust everyone until they give me a reason not to. Now they have to earn it before I give it. I do everything in my power to prove to those I care about that they can trust me. That I will always be there for them. Words are just that. Words. If you show me that I am not important to you, it won’t matter what you say to me. Don’t tell me you care about me and then put me last on your list of things to do for the day. The people you drop everything for are no more struggling than I am. It’s just in a different way. And if you think I’m going to change my life for you, and you show me through your actions that I’m not a priority to you, you’ll be disappointed.
Make time for what is important to you. If you don’t you may lose out on some of the best things in your life.